Originally Posted by: rivergait 
OK. So how hard can this be? When I go onto EYB (having been a member for well over a decade), it opens onto to my own home page. The first thing I do is go to "Forum", …
There is the major difference in our "workflow". Because EYB has proven itself such a valubale adjunct to my baking and cooking I have three browser tabs permanently open, viz My Bookshelf, Cookbooks (aka the Library), and Forum. I am always "here".
Likewise, in a separate browser window I have all my Discourse-based forums (20+ and rising) permanently open in tabs. Any updates to one of those, be they new threads or comments to existing ones, are automatically indicated immediately on switching to the tab; some of the Discourse forums go for days without anyone posting whereas most are highly active and indicate the existence of new stuff almost by the minute. If I were to "go" there, by which I presume you mean opening a new tab or window and either typing in the URL or using a browser bookmark, these occasional forums would drop off my metaphorical radar. EYB is somewhere in the middle with occasional days when nothing is posted and others when there are a flurry of message but we don't know that without deliberately refreshing the page or in your case implicitly refreshing the page.